Let's share our thoughts and feelings during the epidemic period.
Zhou Hong, Secretary of the Party committee of the school of psychology of Nanjing Normal University, member of the professional committee of clinical and counseling psychology of the Chinese Psychological Society, member of the professional committee of psychological counseling of college students of the Chinese Psychological Health Association, director of the Jiangsu psychological society, executive director of the Jiangsu Psychological Health Association, executive vice chairman of the professional committee of psychological education of college students of Jiangsu Province, and social psychology of Jiangsu Province He is the vice chairman of the mental health and consulting professional committee of the society of science, and the Deputy Secretary General of the expert Steering Committee of mental health education in Colleges and universities of Jiangsu Province.
In the past few days, all the students who plan to go back to school have returned as promised. Nanshi, I have been waiting for you for a long time. You have started a different college life: online study in dormitories, one meter line dining, basketball court time limit, library appointment
We have not experienced such a new normal life with discomfort and uncertainty in the past 20 years. This epidemic situation challenges our life in a cruel manner. Maybe many people are looking forward to a new career and academic career after the year 2020, making plans for reading and fitness, or looking forward to a happy life Epidemic situation, the plan to press the pause button.
Yes, the epidemic has had a perceptible impact on us. It not only challenges the medical and public health systems, but also is reshaping almost everything in human society. In a pandemic, no one can be alone. After spending an uncertain period with your family, "post epidemic era" will eventually bring us more realistic challenges and new progress. At this moment, it is the school, teachers and classmates who are really with you. In the following words, we try to respond to your voice, understand your confusion and support your change.
1、 Running in with "uncomfortable"
In the past three months, the life scenes of the students are mostly like this: "push the door is the restaurant, lift the door and enjoy the food", "parents outside the door, I'm in the door, I'm in charge of the small world", "I've got online lessons, don't disturb you", "I can't sleep while painting the play, I can't eat the chicken heartily", "Mom, wash my clothes for me"
However, next, you are faced with a variety of conditional, regulatory life. When roommates take online classes at the same time or at the wrong time, we need to consider how not to affect others; when walking out, we need to put on masks and keep a distance; the library close to us is always unable to enter; the visible basketball court, the unreachable basketball frame; the takeout that can't enter the school gate, the east city exchange that can't be visited
All of these changes will make us feel uncomfortable. Feeling comes from cognition. The more we can understand that such a change is to protect a safer campus, the more we will gradually understand, accept and actively respond to it. In such adjustment and running in, we have completed the transformation from comfort to adjustment, from freedom to self-consciousness, from individual to collective, so that we can better adapt to the campus life and not lose youth.
One day, we will find that all kinds of discomfort that we have experienced bravely will become new growth resources and help our future life.
2、 Talk to "uncertain"
When does the outbreak end? When will the vaccine come out? When will the danger be relieved These uncertain problems are affecting every corner of the world, every industry and campus. When we struggle with these uncontrollable uncertainties, we feel anxious, flustered, helpless and even angry. And when we try to look at these uncertainties and talk to them, maybe we can find the right way to deal with them. For example, when we are worried about "when will the epidemic end", we might as well tell ourselves "this is not something I can control, but what I can control is to try to protect ourselves"; when do we worry about "when will the postgraduate retest start?" It's better to say to yourself, "this is not what I can control, what I can do is to review at ease and be ready at any time"; when are we in a hurry to "start offline teaching?" When, may as well say to oneself "when to go up, how to go up, estimate to see epidemic situation, I am anxious also do not work, what can do is according to study plan, advance steadily."
The world is full of uncertainty. The fastest way to stabilize the world is to help yourself, stabilize yourself and grow up.
3、 Compare with "not in a hurry"
We know that there are a group of anxious students on campus, as well as a group of not anxious students. In this dormitory life, I can't hear my parents' nagging, I can't hide the teacher's urging, I can't see the pressure of the task. Everything seems to slow down and become less anxious.
"Is it ready?" "I don't know when to finish. What's the hurry?" "Are you ready for postgraduate entrance examination?" "I don't know if the postgraduate entrance examination policy changes. What's the hurry?" "How is IELTS going?" "I don't know when IELTS starts, what's the rush?".
In the days when the world was almost closed, we began to get used to "not in a hurry".
Take a close look at "not in a hurry". Which one is it?
There is a kind of not anxious is to say casually, but in fact, always ready, small steps.
There is a kind of not anxious, which is uncertain mood, unclear target and unclear task. Therefore, "not anxious" becomes the shelter when avoiding the task and unwilling to act.
The pace of youth, there can be "not anxious", that is a clear goal, timely action, undisturbed calm. However, those vague goals, delayed tasks, and free and loose "don't worry" will make our growth far away from expectations, increase confusion and encounter difficulties.
The so-called self-discipline is to act before the demand and persist in the change.
In the days when you live in a house together, don't let the free environment loosen your passion for struggle. Moderate restraint and urgency are conducive to our better planning, action and growth.
4、 Meet "dare not"
From the spread of the epidemic throughout the country to the spread of the world, we once again realize the importance of the integration of the country and the world. In the face of the disaster, groups of medical workers, police, volunteers, community workers They rush to the front line of danger and guard the safety of countless lives. They have become the backbone of the nation, helping us to block the danger and light up the front. They put down their ego, forget about life and death, and do many things that people want to do, but they dare not.
When the whole country was fighting against the epidemic, there were 12000 medical and nursing staff in the post-90s and post-00s, accounting for nearly one third of the whole aid team. At the same time, they carry the labels of "cute", "not long" and "fragile", and interpret the qualities of "bravery", "responsibility" and "selflessness" with their actions. Take off the protective clothing. They are all children. They are not afraid of danger or death. However, they understand the responsibility, the urgent need of the society, and the lack of national security, which is the best way to come home?! So, regardless of their safety, they set out retrograde.
There is no natural courage, only the courage that comes from responsibility. In this anti epidemic campaign, Wang Fenghe, a teacher from the school of environment of our university, fought for more than 30 days in Wuhan to support the emergency disposal of medical waste in huoshenshan Hospital; all the members of the school of psychology, teachers and students, tried their best to answer the help line day and night; Yin Fei, a teacher from the school of education and science, sent reassuring guidance to countless families; the translation group of the school of foreign languages, translated medical books quickly These brave Southern teachers, let us see the professional responsibility, great love!
We hope that such a responsibility and feelings will be handed down from generation to generation.
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Dear students, the quiet campus, because of your return, is warmly lit, is awakened by the power:
Track and field running, see you "down-to-earth, energetic and unrestrained" appearance;
Learn to sit downstairs and learn from each other, showing the picture of "reading is not aware of spring, one inch of time and one inch of gold";
The long talk in the dormitory building is about the discovery and thinking since March;
In the campus, the counselor who welcomes you back writes "the spring breeze is ten li, not as good as your return to the hospital.".
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In this way, you come back here to face these uncertainties and new challenges together with the school, teachers, classmates and friends. No one will know exactly what will happen in the post epidemic era, but all the witnesses and witnesses in this era will believe that the crisis will also bring us opportunities, shape a healthier life attitude and a more inclusive attitude towards people; more advanced science and technology, more human management; more effective governance mode, more kind-hearted thinking with the world, and spend this together After a period of time, the post epidemic era will be a good time for students here and now.
Zhou Hong
April 26, 2020
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